So it
seems that on the Today Show this morning there was a segment on
Disruptions of adoptions or "Rehoming". This might not be a popular
post but here goes my opinion on the matter. When we first started
adopting in 2001, I was very much against disruptions. I thought it
was the most horrible thing you could do to a child. Then... one day I
was given details about a child that someone was looking
to "re-home". They asked me to help them find a home for the child. I
listened to both sides of the story and it was like a light bulb went
off for me. I figured out that sometimes the child adopted from another
country was NOT meant for the family that adopted them. I figured out
that maybe, JUST maybe, they were the vehicle to get the child home to
find their real forever family.
So do I feel it is the most
horrible thing you can do to a child? 1000 times NO. I have seen
children re-adopted and thrive and do wonderful in the second home for a
number of reasons. Would I ever adopt from a disruption? ABSOLUTELY.
So although NBC "thinks" they know the story... and they
"think" it is all illegal, etc., almost 99% of ALL disruptions that I am
aware of and help rehome, the families have homestudies... they are
approved by the state. They have lawyers involved. They are not just
meeting in a parking lot and picking up a "discarded" child. There is a
LOT of talking, meeting, praying and consideration going on before it
gets to this level.
What am I trying to say? I am saying...
before you believe every thing you hear or read in the news... talk
with someone involved in the process. Sounds to me like the reporters
found a couple of bad instances and decided to ramp it up. (Not that I
am trying to say that the bad instances didn't happen and that they are
truly sad).
If you know of someone disrupting, please pray
for them. Pray for the child. Pray that God will direct and guide them.
Because I can promise you... I have seen more GOOD come from a
disruption than bad. And before you JUDGE someone that is disrupting,
take a step back and remember that there is only one Judge and HE does a
good job of it... All we are commanded to do is LOVE and pray for
others.
I hope and pray that this all dies down before it
ends international adoption all together. I cannot imagine my life
without my children from China. They are a HUGE blessing to us... and
they are without a doubt, some of the most amazing kids in the entire
world who without adoption would be rotting away in an orphanage
somewhere... never knowing about God, family or love!!!
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I have to say, I agree with you 100%. The media makes a bigger mess out of something small. I would in a heart beat, take a child who didn't fit with their family. You just don't know when adopting a child, if their going to fit right into your family. We adopted our girl from China at 12 months old, she's prefect for us and is now 31 months today. God knows what he's doing and will do the right thing all the time.
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